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Thursday, October 20, 2016

Life is for the living.

My dad passed yesterday. He was one of my two best friends. His departure has left a gaping hole in my life. One I am not sure how to fill or if it will ever be filled. His departure from this life to the next was peaceful surrounded by the ones that he loved the most and who loved him the most. In the end, this is all we really get to ask for, to be surround by loved ones both during our lives and at the end of our lives.

One thing my dad regretted, he regretted not living to fullest. He spent time wondering what other people thought about him. Not taking some risks he knew he should have taken and taking others that he knew was a poor risk. In the end though, he lived a full and impactful life. He died quite poor in this life in terms of material wealth. But the legacy of love and meaning was more significant than I thought as multitudes of people have poured out their love and memories of him and the impact he had on their lives. Most of that meaning was silent and behind the scenes but it was there.

My dad taught me how to be a man. How to treat a lady and how to be a father. Even after we adopted our only kid at age 38, I went to him for fatherly advice. He will be missed.

As my dad got older, one thing he kept repeating to me was this; "live life, forget about what others think. Don't worry, just live, after all, life is for the living". It's this wisdom from my father that I want to hold onto in the coming days, weeks, months and years. That life is for the living. Don't hold back and don' spend a second in regret.

I have lots to be regretful about. Things I could have done differently or said differently. Those things are in the past and cannot be changed. I have carried a lot of regret and a lot of "what ifs' around for a long time. If my pop was here, he'd tell me again, to just let it go and get on with the business of living. And that's what I'm going to do.

A little Aerosmith for your early morning!



4 comments:

  1. My deepest condolences.

    Evryone has regrets, one who doesnt either lies or has never lived life. You are not alone on this. And your Dad taught you well, his legacy is you.

    Be the man for your wife and your daughter that you were taught to be, that will be his triumph as it is for every man.

    We carry the burden because we can. We stunble and fall and get hurt, we carry on because we can.

    Be well, my friend

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